This whole post is dedicated to me venting so if you don't feel like reading on i totally understand i just need to get it all out!
Yesterday i went shopping with my cousin and her friend and it got me wishing for lots of materialistic things, cute trendy clothes, beautiful make-up, smelly perfumes, and of course a rockin non-cellulite, stretch mark free body, with glossy thick hair. The longer we shopped and maneuvered past other moms like me with their child in a stroller i realized something... is this what i want Ruby and my future children to learn from me? I guess what I'm trying to say and i know for a fact all women feel this way is that there is this huge pressure on women to be perfect in every way but even more to be the perfect person outwardly. But i also know that when your only concern is having the trendiest clothes, the best styled hair, with perfect
O-P-I nail polish to match your make-up to perfection your not necessarily happy and your relationship with your children, husband, and all others suffer. Don't get me wrong i totally believe it is important to be healthy and our outward appearance is important to keep up, but to a certain extent? The extent that we lose focus on what is really important in life. Is it really all that important to have those super expensive cute boots from nordstroms, or that awesome 60 dollar blouse from anthropologie? When in the end the only thing that we take with us when we die can not be handled with mortal hands. All those great gadgets and amazing shoe collection we collected over the years won't be waiting for us in heaven so again i ask what is truelly important to you? More importantly what are we as mothers and all women teaching our children to care about the most in life. Can we be Rachael Zoes and President Monson's at the same time or do we have to put down that lip gloss and pick up that Book of Mormon? Can i teach my daughter's to love themselves and have self respect and respect from others when i fixate on my own body imperfections and the outward imperfections of other women? Can i teach my children service to others and the importance of quality family time if we are always hitting the mall and sale racks? What things do i personally want my children to say their mother taught them.
1. That Heavenly Father loves them and that I love them
2. That I have a testimony of the gospel of Jesus Christ
3. That I love and cherish the Scriptures
4. That family is the most important thing to me
5. That serving others is the key to happiness
6. That every one is a child of God and should be treated so
7. That cooking together is one of life's greatest treasures
those are just some of the things that i want my kids to say that i taught them. My own mom has been such a great example of selfless service to others and her family and the importance of focusing on the inside then the outside. Recently she has lost a tremendous amount of weight and looks fabulous. I suggested we go shopping and while we were at a store i kept commenting how great she looked in the clothes she was trying on and how hot she was. In her wisdom the thing she said next was "I don't want losing weight and being able to fit into new clothes distract me from whats truly important" She didn't lose the weight because she wanted to be able to get a new wardrobe or praise from others. She did it because she wanted to be a healthy grandmother that could be around to play with her grandkids.
Since having a baby and seeing the changes my own body has gone through and working hard to get back to a healthy weight it is easy to put yourself down and wish for other people's outward happiness. But whenever Ruby smiles or laughs at me it reminds me that life is more than dolling yourself up everyday, but the little moments you spend with your husband in bed singing random songs and playing with glow sticks or reading a book to your child even though all the child wants to do is rip the pages. Or playing Mexican train with family and friends and being silly! that is what life is about and we all need to take a step back and re- evaluate what is important to us, because what is important to us is what will be important to our children. I am done venting.